When you break up with someone that you genuinely cared or still care about, the grieving can feel like a death. When you break up with someone, you not only experience the death of your relationship, but it can even feel like withdrawal from a drug.
In fact, science has proved that people who are going through a breakup experience many of the same symptoms as someone detoxing for addiction cravings. What was once a huge part of your life is now gone forever. That’s not an easy idea to process!
The good news is that even the toughest breakups will eventually get better. Even though you may feel miserable right now, you will find happiness again, and most likely love too. It’s all about getting through the hard part as best as you can.
Follow these coping tips for making it through your break up.
Practice Self Care
When you’re grieving, chances are that lots of tears are flowing. You may not feel like doing any sort of activity, let alone getting out of bed. However, it’s important to practice self-care in order to allow yourself to heal.
Don’t let yourself go even though it may be the easy thing to do. Get out of bed. Shave your face, put on a clean shirt, watch a movie you love, and eat some good food. Don’t allow hopelessness to take over. Put one foot in front of the other and treat yourself like you’d want a good friend to. You deserve it!
Find a Support System
You need to have friends on call to help you during the hard times. Some days you may feel like there’s no point in even leaving the house anymore. That’s when you should call a friend and confide in them about how you’re feeling.
Support from others is an essential part of making it through difficult times. Don’t make the mistake of pushing people away, but rather embrace your friends and let them help you!
After the initial shock, which may have left you feeling like a hermit for a few days, it’s time to start getting busy. The busier you are, the less time you have to feel sad or hopeless.
Staying busy can mean anything from working to going out with friends. The idea is to keep your brain active and fill the gaps of time with activities.
Don’t Jump Into Another Relationship
Even though you may be anxious to find love again, it’s essential to avoid the infamous “rebound” relationship. Give yourself time to reflect and process your pain. Until you do that, you won’t be ready to truly give your heart away again.